I'm about done with the Bob McDonnell scandal. Whatever happens will happen, but one thing has not been discussed that I'm frankly surprised about. Many folks on blogs and social media have decried the federal government for attacking McDonnell, some even directly blaming Barack Obama and Eric Holder (forgetting that the same Justice Department just indicted a powerful Assembly speaker in New York, who's a Democrat), as if they sit around trying to figure out a way to bring down Bob McDonnell. The party of law and order seems to be in denial about the process of accusation, investigation, indictment, and trial by jury. McDonnell received all those, with a high-powered/high-dollar defense team, and was convicted I see "Pray For The McDonnells" Facebook profile pictures, vague accusations about the presiding judge, but never have the actual facts of the case been contradicted. The divide is frankly on the same tea party vs. establishment divide that separates everything else in RPV. But this isn't what I'm blogging about here. There is something else that all of the McDonnell defenders refuse to talk about, and it isn't a matter of the law. He cannot go to jail for this, but it is the main reason that I have zero sympathy for him.
Bob McDonnell failed as a husband, and for that I have lost all respect for the man.
Now I'm no expert, I'm only approaching my four year anniversary - that seems like nothing to most people. But the most amazing, and disgusting, part of Bob McDonnell's defense strategy was to attack the integrity and character of his wife, Maureen. I won't go over the painfully embarassing details, but needless to say any true man would never ever put his wife whom he's promised before God to love and honor in that position. Aren't we the party of faith and family values? Do these vows matter? Bob McDonnell had a choice in 2009, his wife or his career. It has become clear that Maureen McDonnell wanted nothing to do with the intense pressure of being First Lady. The social and financial pressure of a large family and the need to meet the demands of being First Lady, both in responsibility and appearance, was not something the McDonnells were ready for financially. The McDonnells could not financially afford for then AG McDonnell to run for governor and his wife did not want to be First Lady.
Marriage is about sacrifice. I've learned that myself and my parents have taught me that. You give up things for the happiness of your loved one. Bob McDonnell was 55 years old when he ran for governor, hardly an old man in politics. With Virginia's single term limits for governor he could have easily bowed out for a term and gotten a job with someone like McGuire Woods and put his family, that he was in charge of, in better financial footing. Instead he choose himself over his wife, his ambition over his family's happiness. It's a disgrace. He could have run for Congress in 2010 or waited for 2013 to run for governor when his finances were in a better position to endure a run for political office. Maureen McDonnell was a sitting duck for someone like Jonnie Williams. Bob's answer to his wife's pain and agony at this pressure she wasn't ready for was to withdraw further and dream of being vice-president. Who would do that to their spouse?
Maureen McDonnell has been made into a villain, a paranoid, jealous, petty miser who terrorized staff and wanted things she could not afford. Maybe its because the demands of her office put so much pressure to have those nice things and she treated staff terribly because she didn't want to be there in the first place? Even her own daughter has turned on her. What real man would allow this to happen to his family? What real man would allow personal ambition destroy his marriage and then blame the wife?
I'd rather go to jail than put my wife through that. So defend him all you want, think Obama and Holder are behind it, keep believe the judge has some petty grudge he's been hanging on to for ten years if that is what you want. Not me. This "man" failed his family by putting himself before the responsibilites he agreed to before God.